You do not have to
be in a couple to embrace the Tantric vision.
In reality Tantra is an individual commitment, and not a couple commitment.
Tantra is a way of living life with greater intensity of awareness, including a
high level of focus on the body in all its activities. It is not limited to
sex. Naturally with a regular partner it is possible to experiment with tantra
more often, and with greater intention, however even a 'one night stand'
provides a perfect opportunity for tantric experience.
Tantric 'happenings' can occur between a man and a woman at any time, after 2
minutes, 2 weeks or 20 years. It has very little to do with how long you have
been together, how well you know each other, or if there is previous sexual
intimacy. These aspects can help, however they can as equally be a hindrance.
When we are accustomed to a person, it is easy to take them for granted, get
into a routine, without gaps for magical or out of the ordinary experiences.
In reality it can sometimes easier for extraordinary experiences to arise with
a total stranger - and this is because of the uncertainty underlying the given
situation, it is completely unknown, everything is a first. Quite automatically
this intensity leads to an amplified awareness of each and every moment, what
is happening as it is happening, second by second. You are fully present to the
unfolding of the moment.
Generally speaking it can be said that tantric happenings depend on the level
and finesse of individual inner attunement. This sparkling tantric aura has a
magnetic field, an attraction, which draws the other person into a new realm of
experience.
It is this capacity, the ability to be fully present to the subtleties
contained in each passing moment, that forms the basis of transforming
conventional sex into a tantric sex. Tantra is the transformation of sex into
love through awareness.
Tantra offers great potential in any sexual interaction, be it long term or
short term, or just a night. We do welcome into our 'Making Love' Retreats any
'couple' who meet* (*see LLUsingles meeting)
with the special intention to start out immediately by exploring sex within the
Tantric frame. All it takes is two people (heterosexual) with a mutual wish to
explore sex, without necessarily having to wait for a full involvement and
committed relationship.
We always encourage people to begin tantric style of lovemaking as soon as
possible after they have met. Even if the sexual experience is wonderful, it is
highly advisable not to postpone Tantra to a later date. Tantra is
transforming. The majority of relating problems have their source in the
conventional style of sex which leads to sexual and emotional issues. Couples
usually separate because of sexual incompatibility, and emotional strife. The
end result is that far too many individuals find themselves alone, with little
or no love in their lives. People find themselves alone and single, not because
they are not loving or loveable, but because the environment required to
sustain love is not taught to us. The practice of Tantra, and the relaxing
ambience, creates a loving partnership. Embracing Tantra opens up a way to
sustain and deepen love, where time together evolves as a joyful harmony, not
scarred by the ups and downs often experienced in relationship.
We meet and hear of many singles who tell us how interested in Tantra they are.
They also say how hard it is to find a partner, especially one interested in
Tantra. It seems that many many singles are walking around saying the same
thing, and yet not able to find each other in day to day life - the places
where people gather socially are not the kind of places to discover potential
tantrikas. (although in essence each and every person carries the same tantric
essence within.)
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